going through changes: things will get better

Everything gets uncomfortable when it’s time to change. That’s a part of the growth process. Things will get better. Be patient.

Struggle is the indicator of change, you must try to understand what the universe or your inner voice is telling you, listen to the needs of your higher conciousness and change along.  A friend of mine was having a difficult time and I could relate very much, as I’ve just been through one of those as well.

Every once in a while things will get tough and hard in your personal journey, which is very normal if you ask me. The struggle ends when you learn to accept this as a way of life. If you let it be and carefully pay attention to what’s been told/shown, you can grow stronger instead of letting yourself succumb under that pressure and torture. As a human being, we have a duty to become the best version of our true selves.

Trust that the universe knows what to put you trough to get you closer to what’s meant for you.

You simply can’t unknow stuff, you can’t unsee things: and therefore you can’t ignore what your consciousness is telling you. If you do ignore it though, it will become so unpleasantly hard for you to keep doing whatever you wanted to keep doing mindlessly and undisturbed. Truth is, we didn’t come into existence to live egocentric lives. We didn’t come to have what we have, we didn’t learn all those lessons to make ourselves less, we weren’t blesses with all those things that we take for granted just so we could watch tv all day, scroll on facebook or drink our lives away. We came into existence to make our time valuable, to value ourselves and others.

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So I gave my friend some advice that for me was crucial to understand in order to survive/outlive the hard times. I oddly found it very inspirational as I was writing it down and because of that, I wanted to share these words with you all;

<my original message in Dutch>  “Het worstelen is het begin van een nodige verandering. Ken uw kracht, weet dat dit nu groeipijnen zijn. Uw hoofd, hart, lichaam heeft weer aanpassing nodig: een nieuwe manier van zijn. Doorsta deze harde tijd, jouw moeite zal zoals altijd weer beloond worden. Ik heb ook onlangs weer enkele veranderingen moeten doorstaan en ben weer sterker als individu. Ik weet dat jij ook straks zult groeien. Nu even doorbijten.

<and my English translation>  “Struggling is the beginning of a necessary change. Recognize your strength. Understand that these are growing pains. Your head, mind and body need a new adjustment, a new way of being. Endure these hard times, your effort will -as always- be rewarded. I also recently had to weather a few changes myself -you are not alone in this- now I am stronger as an individual, therefore I know that you too will grow stronger. You can do it. Sustain for a while, it get will inevitably get better.”

Take care, with love.

If your life just got a little harder, that might mean you just reached the next level.


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less equals more

Whether you drive a BMW or a Maruti, the road remains the same. Whether you fly Economy or Business Class, your destination doesn’t change. Whether you wear Titan or Rolex, time remains the same. Whether you use a Samsung or Apple, the people who call you are the same. It’s not wrong to dream about a luxurious life, though notice that need doesn’t become greed: because needs can always be met, but greed can never be fulfilled.

slightly adapted quote from Rajnikanth

What will remain (of my personal belongings) after I die

One of the reasons that minimalism appeals to me is the profound meaning of living life itself. I believe strongly in the following quote by Joshua Becker:

We were never meant to live life accumulating stuff.  We were meant to live simply enjoying the experiences of life, the people of life, and the journey of life – not the things of life.

To my understanding this represents the true meaning of a life-time and what the result is about. I believe people choose minimalism nowadays because they want to feel freed and they want to experience their happiness now, by stop wasting time and effort on what isn’t important and learn to focus upon what truly matters here and now. Many minimalists have their awakening once they encounter the death of a close someone, realizing all the stuff that this person held on to and experiencing how much of a hassle all this is for the ones you leave behind, to deal with. Not only does it awaken your consciousness of the future and the life of those who will outlive you, you’re also left with the responsibility to make your life meaningful to yourself and others without the overkill of owning a unhealthy amount of stuff.

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Something personal here: I am considering never conceiving my own children and I will write about this topic more in depth eventually hopefully later. But for now, this is a simple fact: I will not find purpose in my life in procreating another life. I find it ethically and morally right to limit myself to my own existence and share my life with those who are already here on earth to find meaning together in this world. I realize that my choice leaves me with the knowledge that everything I own won’t be a heritage to an offspring but it might be taken into use by those who can benefit from my stuff and those who have some sentimental value to my existence (my partner for example, some friends or even my parents if they live long enough). I am well aware that the meaning of your life is limited to what you make out of it, what you pursue, what you give to others and what you radiate (love, inspiration and so on). Nobody will remember you for your stuff, they will remember you despite of your stuff. There is a story going on in my family about an aunt that when she died, everyone was so baffled by how much junk she accumulated and they made fun of her at that moment while cleaning out the house, but even worse: it’s the only way people remember her today. It’s like she never made an impression worth remembering, I imagine she must have been an introvert to the extreme and not even a kind person because instead of sympathy and compassion, people felt the need to mock her illness of hoarding. It somehow always touched me to hear this story of someone I haven’t known personally in my life.

With minimalism I feel like you’re actually aware of mortality and become at peace with the thought even more. Not only because you’re less worried about ‘where your stuff will end after you die’, but also because you become aware of how to live your life during your lifetime, making the most of it, choosing to live happily and healthy instead of wasting your most valuable asset in life: your time.

Try to see the meaningful through the meaningless. Find good in the bad and hold on to what works, to what makes you happy to what keeps you going. Remember the positive in your lifetime and overcome the bad times. Your life is worthy and you should treat it that way, without becoming arrogant. Contribute in any way possible, anything to make you feel valuable without disabling others or let others wreck you. Don’t let people take advantage of your kindness and generosity. Find the balance between giving and not expecting to receive anything without being robbed. Here is a great poem -I shared a while back- that wraps up this topic for now.